When are you getting married? Many people have been asking me this question for sometime but in last few weeks, unlike earlier, this question makes me think a little. Alas! I realise that this is not so far away . So I really tell the truth that now I am ready but I have not found the girl yet. Well that settles the question normally at that time but it leaves me thinking what exactly I am looking for .
Last time when I had gone home I met a distant relative and she asked What type of girl you are looking just tell me .You want working, non working, whatever you say. I really started believing that this lady is a real wizard and I just I have to give my demand and she would just assemble what exactly I wanted. What a great thing it would have been but I think real life does not work that way. But still lets jot down the points that I am looking for may be I really get someone and then I would not waste time on thinking .
1.Appearance:
The most important factor ,I have seen many liberal persons saying they don’t look for outward beauty. But you would rather find out that these persons usually either marry the most beautiful girl or have very beautiful wives. So the choice naturally should have be a very beautiful girl but I know the problem is that I have seen what happens when you have a have a very beautiful girlfriend. The first thing that you are going to hear “Langur ke muh ke mein angoor”. And type of extreme nature I posses ,I would be reduced to a situation best defined from the song “Pichhle saat dinon mein”.
“Kabhi kudh pe hasha main aur kabhi kudh pe roya”
And yes we have to factor in my appearance so we will settle for a good looking girl. Secondly the skin color .There is an obsession among us Indian men for the “gori chitti larki”, I believe I don’t mind that thing a lot .If I have a choice I would like to have a girl with big eyes .The reason for this is that my eyes are really small and I would like my children to have a chance to big eyes. What else I don’t have much of a choice on this factor.
2.Intellect:
The jury is out I don’t think anyone is really interested in marrying a highly intellectual girl if given a choice .They would rather marry a dumb person. As for me I don’t want a dumb person but certainly don’t want someone who is going to debate with me on every point and make my life hell. You all would have by now start detesting me but I would tell you not to make an opinion until you read out my experience.
Well one of my friend was exactly of this quality that is an intellect and she knew so many things and she always had an opinion about just everything. I think I went to some shop with her either I had to buy shampoo or bread I don’t clearly remember. So I went in the shop I picked up what was nearest and as soon as I picked it up she gave me a lecture on what was wrong with that thing .So I did what came naturally to me .I kept it back. And as soon as I did that she gave me a lecture for next 10 minutes on what was good in that. So what did I do ,again what came naturally to me, I shouted at her and asked her to decide weather to take it or not. And what came next any guesses well she shouted back another lecture why short temper is not good for health. By that time a crowd had gathered and I didn’t wanted to preached in public by a girl so I picked the next in line paid my bill without even listening to what she was saying.
So for me a person with right amount of brains would be good enough.
3.Working or Non Working:
Working not much of a choice over there .Though most of my cousins prefer the other way round .But I feel that any individual should be independent enough to make decisions right for them.
4 Nature:
I am confused on this one never ever gave a deep thought on this, though I have interacted with a myriad type of personalities.
Recently we were having the bachelor’s party for ex manager ,he told us about the why he wanted a livein relation. I was really impressed by the reason he gave and now I am also thinking in that direction . Though I know it is going to be difficult ,first I don’t feel I will get a girl ,secondly my family would disown me . But yet lets hope for the best, I have started preparation from my side I am going to run this years marathon and would start training shortly. No I am not looking to find a girl over there instead it will help me pull back my weight by 4-5 kg .
So now you know what I am looking for if you find someone do tell me.